SACRED Standers

When we first made our vows, none of us ever thought our marriages would ever be in trouble. We believed that "til death do us part" was real and we wouldn't ever have to face this world alone. We believed our spouses would always stand beside us and fight for our marriage, our children and our families. Then one day, the enemy struck and our lives were never the same. 

There are moments in life that define us. Moments when we know that from this point on, it all changes. Some of those moments are blessings and welcomed with open hearts and open arms.... like the birth of a child... landing your dream job.... meeting and marrying "the one".... 

And then there are moments you wish never happened... losing a loved one... losing your dream job... being told your spouse no longer loves you and wants a divorce... or finding out they are in an affair... or that they are an addict... And now you find yourself living in a nightmare.

If you found this page or were directed here, we're guessing you are dealing with a spouse who no longer wants to be in the marriage.  If that's the case, we want you to know that there is hope. God loves marriage and hates divorce. God is for you and your marriage. God wants your marriage to succeed. 

And if you found us, maybe our group can help you stand strong as you fight for your spouse's salvation and your marriage. Read on to find out more....

A Stander is one who’s standing for the reconciliation or restoration of a lost beloved to God and to us. Whether it's a spouse who has walked away from the marriage, a son or daughter who has turned from their faith and gone down a dark path, or even a friend who is mired in addiction. The one who is praying for them, believing for them and trusting God is the Stander. 

In our group, we are all standing in the gap for our spouses. We believe, regardless of why they've left us, that God can and will restore them first to Himself and then to our marriage. We are fighting in the spirit realm for their salvation and their return to the Father knowing that once they do, our marriages can be resurrected. Standing, therefore, means partnering with God to fight for our spouses no matter how long it takes or hard it gets. It also means knowing that as we surrender, trust God, and lean into His understanding, He will guide us so we don't break while we wait on His perfect timing, plan, and will. 

For more details, please read Dr. Christine Bacon's article on being a Stander. It has many useful tips and scriptural reminders on how to stand. Click Here to read the full article. 

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If you feel that God has called you to stand for your marriage, our group may be for you. Please read on and consider submitting our a New Member Request.

SACRED Standers was founded by Dr. Christine Bacon. Her personal mission and goal is to help restore 1 million marriages. The majority of those who found her read the article linked above. We were inspired by her humility, honesty, and authenticity and felt finally we had found a group who would help us carry the heavy cross that was placed upon our hearts to stand for the restoration of our own marriages. Those who join us, believe as we do in our mission....

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The mission of the SACRED Standers Community is foremost, to get souls to heaven. Its secondary mission is to save marriages and families and, third, to change the culture for the good. As such, we Stand in but against a culture that accepts and tells us that marriage is disposable. As a natural consequence of our stands, our mission is to teach others, through love and virtuous living, that:

• Marriage is indissoluble and ends only at death.  

• With the grace of Christ, no cross is too heavy to endure.

• Earthly suffering can bear eternal rewards.

• Children do carry long-term wounds from their parents’ divorce and that they are worth staying together for.

• God can and does bring about the miraculous in resurrecting once-dead marriages.

Who We Are

We are a community of Catholic and Protestant believers who are standing in the gap for all marriages – specifically our own, or the marriage of an immediate family member. To fulfill our mission, we work together to support and encourage standers from any background, race, creed or color. One does not have to be Christian to join our group but must accept that all the principles taught, professed and supported in this group are unapologetically based on Christ’s teachings and the Christian faith. 

We respect each other's religious beliefs and do not try to convert one another to other faiths, sects, denominations, or theology. We encourage everyone to share theological perspectives without denying the perspectives of others. We need this to be recognized as a safe space for everyone to share, and confidentiality is critical. Nothing shared within this group is to be shared outside the group without explicit permission.

What we Believe

We believe marriage is a covenant, and not just a contract; a promise made for life with God at the center. This implies there is and can be only one valid marriage, until parted by death. For that reason, it will only be under extenuating circumstances that this group will support standing for a subsequent marriage. Those who have had an official, blessed annulment may be considered in their first marriage. As Christians, we support anyone who wishes to fight for his or her covenant marriage. We support and encourage others never to quit standing but respect each other’s’ decision should they no longer do so.

We are all separated faithful but may have discovered standing in a variety of ways; in some cases, the Stander may be the one who initially broke a vow prior to repenting. Regardless of how a Stand may have been initiated, we expect that all members of the group be respected – the Stand is considered sacred. Forgiveness and mercy are paramount, and nothing is impossible with God. We expect that everyone will be treated with love, respect, and compassion. We are all partnering with God for the restoration of our spouses to Him first, with reconciliation of the marriage as a byproduct.

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Note: This organization was founded, and is led by Dr. Christine Bacon. She has personally vetted everyone who has joined the group. It is private and only those who share our beliefs regarding the sanctity of marriage are permitted to join. 

Matthew 19:4-6 NKJV: And He answered and said to them, “Have you not read that He who made them at the beginning ‘made them male and female,’ 5and said, ‘For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’? 6So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate.” 

Genesis 1:27-28: “So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them. And God blessed them. And God said to them, ‘Be fruitful and multiply and fill the earth and subdue it and have dominion over the fish of the sea and over the birds of the heavens and over every living thing that moves on the earth.’ ”

Genesis 2:18 Then the LORD God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.”

Genesis 2:22-24: 22 Then the LORD God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man. 23 The man said, “This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called ‘woman,’ for she was taken out of man.” 24 “Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.”

Malachi 2:14-15: “But you say, ‘Why does he not?’ Because the LORD was witness between you and the wife of your youth, to whom you have been faithless, though she is your companion and your wife by covenant.”

Proverbs 5:18-19   May your fountain be blessed, and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth. 19 A loving doe, a graceful deer— may her breasts satisfy you always, may you ever be intoxicated with her love.

Ecclesiastes 4:12: “Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.”

Mark 10:9: “Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.”

Ephesians 5:25-33: “Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish. In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church, …”

Dr. Christine is committed to helping as many Christians as possible save their marriages. Our group as a whole is committed to this as well. As such, we need to protect our members' privacy and respect each other's stands. This is why we have created an New Member Intake form which allows you to read a little bit more about our rules and policies and provide us with some information about you and your stand.

Dr. Christine will then reach out to you, typically within a week or so, to chat with you about your situation. All your information will remain confidential and private.

If you wish to proceed, click HERE.